everyday Dharma

  • do you have to meditate every day?

    I find that newer students don’t ask this question much in their meditation groups, fearing, perhaps, that they might be the only ones with this concern. I still struggle with having consistent, regular meditation, and I have been at this for 41 years. But I have noticed that I don’t have those punitive feelings about…

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  • does meditation help with patience?

    The only way to fail at meditation is to stop meditating. As long as you show up, the meditative process happens. It’s really simple: sit down on a chair or a cushion, set the timer on your phone for, let’s say, 20 minutes, then pay attention to how your body feels, or how your breath…

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  • it’s crooked!

    I mean, the pandemic, economic turmoil; not to mention I am behind a few loads of laundry. And all of a sudden I am somehow supposed to start fresh, become a brand new, happy, healthy person, and so on. Not happening. Sorry, readers. And sorry to break it to you, self, so impersonally. I am…

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  • mindful dishwashing

    A few folks have asked me if I am feeling any lingering effects from my recent Covid-19 illness. Not really; but I do I find mindful dish-washing in the kitchen sink  to be much more fulfilling. I used to find myself wondering, pre-Covid-19, if washing dishes until kingdom come was getting in the way of…

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  • let’s live like nomads

    If you don’t have a sense of humor, you have no sense at all. I think of that menu and its message from time to time, as I struggle to keep up my meditation practice. I ask myself, am I taking meditation too seriously? In the words of the comic Swami Beyondananda The world is…

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  • I wish I could have given him the moon

    Good poems, for me, are often potent teachings on how to live this precious life we are given. Over the years I have been moved to tears reading poems.  There is one poet in particular I keep coming back to, the Japanese poet Ryōkan Taigu, who lived from 1758–1831. Ryokan was a quiet and eccentric Sōtō…

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  • inner simplicity

    But, as Hawaii-born retired Sumo grand-master Akebono would say to reporters after winning yet another match, “I just try my best.” That’s all we ask. Try your best. Just show up on the cushion, again and again. If you just keep showing up, the magic starts to happen – but it helps a lot to…

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  • savor the resistance

    Karen Maezen Miller, in a piece in Lion’s Roar, describes the domestic practices of ancient Zen masters as intimate daily life transformations. Following in their steps she reflects: In the fall, the broad canopy of giant sycamores in my backyard turns faintly yellow and the leaves sail down. A part of every autumn day finds…

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  • an ordinary new year wish

    Wishing others an entire year of monumental experiences or events, is curious to me. I am not sure I can handle anything too out of the ordinary. In fact, I am quite happy with ordinary. what’s so special about being special? I’ve been around the “special” block quite a few times, enough to question the…

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  • everyday mysticism

    This year, I don’t think I’ll make any resolutions. Well, except for maybe one. I resolve to live a little more happily. And that comes by clearly seeing how I make myself unhappy. How I keep carrying this heavy bag of “me” around. Even after I put it down temporarily in meditation, I manage to…

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